Healing: Becoming a healer

In the coming weeks I am going to begin to write here about the healing methods I use as a way of making myself write the book on healing that I've been promising to write for so long!

Before I start though, its important to talk about what it means to be a healer. Jonathan Goldman, an expert in music and healing frequencies, is someone whose music I use all the time in healing sessions. He remarks that frequency + intent = healing.

Intent is where the healer comes in. The intent is to heal obviously. But how do you get into that state? The healer is not immune from illness. He or she may have lots of things going on that they are working on in their own selves. Often this understanding adds to the ability to understand what a client might be experiencing. In my view that is fine as it keeps you human and not in danger of stepping into a role where everyone thinks you have all the answers. The important thing is to get out of your own way and not bring your own stuff into the sessions you conduct.

Intent is ultimately about being absolutely clear that anything is possible. The intent is 100% removed from thinking about outcomes, getting stuck in a diagnosis, or underestimating the life path of the client and what they may have chosen to experience and what they have the power to release.

So how do you get yourself to this state of intent?

My personal recipe is first to have a teacher or system that you can refer to that keeps you clear on a personal and heart level. I personally use the techniques of Knowledge as taught by Maharaji and find his teaching keeps me on track and in touch with myself.

Secondly, the healer needs to learn a system that helps to channel the energy not from you but through you. Again I personally trained in the Domancic method, which works well on physical conditions and in a Bioenergy healing method that works deeply on emotional conditions. For people with really stuck thinking I trained in The Work of Byron Katie.

Thirdly, a personal rule must be to separate work from life. The healer is a healer only at work. In life they have their own learning to experience and their own bridges to cross. It is vital to have a work-life separation. Too often the healer draws in "clients" to their personal life and the end result is rarely positive.

Maharaji once told a very good story to illustrate this. He gave the example of someone who comes to you with his finger cut off. He cries, "Look I've cut off my finger!" You help him bandage the finger, you talk about why he cut off his finger, you worry about how he's feeling and you take such care of him until that wound has healed. Then you turn your back and in seconds he's back. "Oh look!", he wails, "I've cut off another finger." You go through the same process again and then when all is well, he's back with yet another finger cut off. The point here, Maharaji says, is how many fingers are you going to stay for? Because the severed fingers will keep on coming. Compassion is staying for the first finger and maybe the second, but when the chopped fingers keep on coming then, if you stay, you are being lenient, not compassionate and leniency is no good for you or for the person chopping off his fingers.

A point comes when you have to walk away. For whatever reason you are not the person the deal with the severed finger syndrome. A 'finger chopper' can only be helped when they admit that the problem is that they can't stop chopping off their fingers.

Is walking away easy? No! Is walking away necessary? Absolutely! Healing is not rescuing or saving or performing some magical act. Rather it is a choice to cooperate with someone who wants to grow in their lives and by taking part and just being present without agendas or ego the healer also learns and grows with every client.

So the lesson of compassion versus leniency is vital in anyone's life, but especially in the life of someone who chooses a healing profession. Once that lesson is learned the intent becomes even more clear and more powerful. It also flows into professional life as clients also benefit. They can be guaranteed a compassionate approach but also a tough line in the sand that will not allow for any lenient acceptance of negative or destructive patterns.